By Terri Kang (Sun Gwang)
Explode it? Accumulate it? Or control it?
Complaints and conflicts will always be around. When we encounter a differing viewpoint to our own, it can be hard to forget about it. We can avoid some people we don’t want to interact with too often, but what about those we live with?
Habit, culture, age, sex, education, wealth, climate, etc.; so many things impact our reality and cause us to have viewpoints, all different from other members of our society, country, even family. One person may want to turn off the light to save electricity, while another might like the lights on to brighten the mood. They will clash, the one who gets their way is usually the stronger and louder one. The one who likes compromise will usually be the one who gives up their preference for the sake of the other’s happiness.
This “nice” one will then begin to harbor resentments and discontent, and this leads to anger. In a company, those who compromise are often the lowest in rank, and in the family, it is those with the least power – the children.
Although “Good luck lies with the one who perseveres”, Mark Twain offered great advice when he said:
“When angry, count to four; when very angry, swear.”
How many of us would actually count to four?
Children are in the weakest position of us all.
The more children are oppressed, the more they explode in later life. With consideration of each other and a fair attitude of compromise among family members, the clashes and resentful situation of division into the strong and the weak can be avoided.
The weak in these situations grow a poor sense of self. They can become angry and resentful and feel a mortification that must find an appropriate outlet. If they can’t find a solution, then often disease and illness can develop.
The solution for this resentment can be such things as over eating, drinking, drugs, or back-talking and arguing. These tendencies create unfavorable situations which interrupt the healthy flow of energy. This creates regrettable words or actions.These destructive thoughts, now converted to anger
Will you explode with it? Accumulate it? Or control it? Can anger really be controlled?
Everyone in our family had type O blood, which was the only complete similarity. We all were very strong and distinct personalities, which, of course caused many conflicts. As the youngest, I lived thinking of myself as the victim, and searched for a solution to my constant anger. I found my solution in meditation, and have now practiced for more than 10 years.
So am I now completely free of anger and in continual peace? I have taken on rigorous trainings and become a meditation and yoga trainer, and cannot confidently say I am. I constantly encounter those with different viewpoints, and the sense of conflict with these disrupts my peace and unsettles my mind.
Like one would pull away on a roll of paper towels, I pull away the thoughts. Vibrating my brain and chakras, tapping my body, and doing deep chest breathing, I pull away the bad thoughts. Once they are pulled away, my heart becomes relieved. When my heart becomes relieved, energy is recharged into my body. When energy is recharged, I am relaxed. When you become relaxed, loving thoughts replace the disruptive thoughts.
After years of this training and practice, the learning I arrived at is precious. Learning to flow with the anger, not to run from it or block it but to recognise it and then let it fall away gives me hope that if I can do it then so can everyone. And this is my hope. I believe my hope is also one that belongs to the rest of the world.
Terri Kang has been teaching yoga and meditation to kids and teens between 5 and 17 at the Brain Education in Korea for four years. She developed various programs to help students improve their body, mind, and brain power and implemented this program to help them improve their school grades, social relationships, leadership, and English Language skills.
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